14 Things
Nobody Told You While Growing Up
No one
ever tells you the hard truths of life. Maybe it’s because they can’t stomach
it, or maybe it’s because they think it’s just something you have to experience
firsthand to understand. Here are fourteen things nobody told you while growing
up that would’ve been nice to know beforehand
1. You’re Going to
Spend A Lot of Time Figuring Stuff Out
Unless you’re one of the lucky few who already
knows what their passion is and what you really enjoy, you will be spending a
lot of time trying new things and figuring out what you’re good at and what you
like. Don’t be afraid to try new things and fail at them; failing builds
character. You have a lot of growing up to do in your 20s, a lot of
self-examination and exploration. Use this time wisely to get to know yourself
as best as you can–not that you won’t change as you continue to get older, but
it’s definitely a time of discovery, getting to know oneself and what you want
in this world and what you have to contribute to the world.
2. Don’t Expect Smooth Seas
There will be many challenges, obstacles and curve balls swung
your way. Just try to take life as it comes. Don’t fight against the current
because you’ll just wear yourself out. If there’s a door that is standing wide
open for you and another that you’re trying to get through by knocking it down,
sometimes it’s best to take the door that’s already open for you. In other
words don’t try to be someone/something you’re not.
3. Change Will Come
Life is about change; don’t fight it and just go with it. Learn
from your mistakes and grow. Let go of things you can’t change. Sometimes
change will be so painful you will want to rip your heart out, but you’ll be
okay if you just hang on and know that no matter what happens, you will be
alright. Win, lose or draw, life will go on and you’ll get another chance to
start your life over if things haven’t gone according to plan.
4. Time Is a Limited Resource
Nothing lasts forever. Enjoy every moment that you have. Enjoy
life and practice being present in the moment because it goes by extremely
fast. There will be both good and bad times. The bad thing about up is there’s
always a down. It’s important to really enjoy and savor the good moments in
life because you’ll need those memories to reflect back on when the bad times
come. The first 10 years after high school go by at a breakneck speed and
before you know it you’re 28 and wondering how the time has escaped you.
5. Life is Hard
When you’re a teenager, you’re just at the beginning of your
life’s lessons. Life is the toughest teacher you will ever have. “Life is a
cruel teacher. She gives the test first, then the lesson.” Life will throw
everything that it can at you; it will try to break you and choke you until you
can’t breathe, but you can’t let it.
6. You’re
Only Young Once
Enjoy being young while you are still young! Enjoy being young
as much as possible. Enjoy the metabolism and the fun times. Cross stuff off
your bucket list while you’re young because no one knows how much time you
truly have. Don’t wait until you’re old and can’t or may not be able to do the
things you really want to experience. Seriously, you may be broke while you’re
young, but that doesn’t matter. You’ve got time to make money and settle down.
Travel, explore and do what your heart desires now. You can still get married,
have children and a household and career starting in your 20s if you want, but
you should try to balance your life with equal amounts of responsibility and
fun. The last thing you want to do is look back on missed chances.
7. Attitude Determines Everything
Attitude is everything and that’s not something they teach you
in school. Having a good attitude can make all the difference in your life. It
makes life easier and happier when you have a positive outlook and are able to
keep your attitude light and flexible when dealing with other people and with
life’s challenges.
8. How You Treat People Matters
Treating people with respect and decency can get you a long way
in the world. Remember that “honey attracts more flies than vinegar.” Being
nice to people really does actually matter to people. You won’t get anywhere
tearing other people down or blaming others for anything. Take responsibility
for yourself, your actions and your feelings.
9. Relationships Don’t Come Easy
Choosing a life partner/spouse is hard. Relationships in general
are hard, not just romantic ones but friendships and family relations as well.
Stay in touch with people who you really care about and who really care about
you. Make an effort to stay an active person in their life if you really care.
You will not have as many close friends as you get older and you will probably
lose some friends as well. Remember that it is okay, not everyone who comes
into your life is meant to stay forever; let them go and cherish the people who
are still in your life.
10. Take Every Chance You Get
Life is about taking chances, grabbing opportunities and taking
risks. Don’t be afraid to try something new, move somewhere new, work somewhere
new, meet new people and learn something new.
11. Life Is Complex. Try Not to Worry
Don’t worry because everyone has ups and downs. It’s just how
life is. Life is extremely messy and complicated, but don’t despair because
things will work out in the end. Keep living and keep on doing what you enjoy.
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
12. You Will Face Rejection
You will be rejected at some point in your life. Rejection hurts
at the very core of your being, but try not to take it too personally.
Oftentimes, when you’re rejected it has nothing to do with you and everything
to do with the person rejecting you. Take it in stride, let it slide off your
back and move on. I know this is easier said than done, but it will go a long
way in making you feel better and happier.
13. You Will Not Have Everything Figured Out Anytime Soon
If you don’t have everything figured out by the time you’re 30, you’re not alone. If you’re
not where you want to be in your life or career, don’t sweat it, you still have
time. Some people never figure out what they really want to do with their
lives, but they get a lot of great experience, learn new things and can
transfer their skills to many types of jobs. If you know what you want to do in
life, start doing it immediately, practice it as much as possible and you will
get better at it.
14. Love More and Keep Your Heart Open
Love is all
that really matters in the end. Give of yourself more than anything. Try to be
patient, empathetic, understanding, caring and gentle with other people. Get to
know people better by asking questions and listening attentively. People
usually like to talk about themselves and questions are a great way to get
conversations going. Love people for who they are, just as they are, and
realize that everyone is a work in progress! Life is a continual work in
progress. We’re all just trying to find our way, and we’re all confused and
looking for contentment. Life is a journey, and happiness is not a destination
to arrive at, but a way of living.
Your
comment must be at least 370 words. Due by Tuesday 3/20 at 11:59pm. Your reply
to a classmate is due Thursday 3/22 at 11:59pm.
-What advice from this article do you think Scout and Jem
would’ve found the most helpful? Why?
- What advice do you find the most helpful? Why?
-Would you add anything to the list? What would you add?
The evidence from the article, the one that i think Jem and Scout will find the most helpful is “life is hard”. I think this one because no one tells them the consequences in life and they should know them. Life is a good thing but in order to have a good life you have to make it good. For example doing good in school and not getting into fights. When your a teenager you wanna start figuring out what u want to do in the future and in order to get a good job you have to do good in school because they look back at that.The tip I find most helpful is “Take every chance you get.” To me that is the most helpful because if you get like a 40 on a test and you’re teacher gives a chance to redo it take the chance and do it. If you take chances in life you should always take them. Another chance you should take is if you get an opportunity to go to a professional sports game and you think there going to lose take that chance and go because you never know what could happen. There could be an upset. And if you don't take that chance and you’re watching the game at home and they win you’re going to be mad because you got a chance to go and you turned it down.The tip I find most helpful is “Take every chance you get.” To me that is the most helpful because if you get like a 40 on a test and you’re teacher gives a chance to redo it take the chance and do it. If you take chances in life you should always take them. Another chance you should take is if you get an opportunity to go to a professional sports game and you think there going to lose take that chance and go because you never know what could happen. There could be an upset. And if you don't take that chance and you’re watching the game at home and they win you’re going to be mad because you got a chance to go and you turned it down.
ReplyDeleteI agree that life is hard and if they were told that in the beginning then they probably would have handled things a lot better then they did.Also with the second chance thing we both have had that in Miss Shedlocks class and we took the chance and we got a higher grade on it.This was all around good keep it up. :):):):)
DeleteI like how you picked "LIfe is hard" from the article up top. I agree with everything you said. Good choice.
DeleteI agree with both Niko and Allison that life is hard. It was a good blog and had a lot of detail to why he chose it.
DeleteIn To Kill a Mockingbird Jem and Scout face a lot of hard times in this book the main one is the case of Tom Robinson.A few of these statements that could have helped Jem and Scout Finch with their problems are as follows.Number 7, this one is for jem.Jem had blew a fuse at Miss Dubose (the morphine addict) when she was saying things too him and threw a baton in a fit of rage, and broke a second floor window wich he regretted as soon as it left his hand.Number 5 is for both of these two young children.Life isnt easy and it will just get harder if you don’t try and push through it right now.For Scout she has too learn that when she fights it makes it worse and if she walks away it shows that it doesn’t bother her at all.
ReplyDeleteI feel like all of these pieces of advice are very important to everyone who is under the age of 16.I feel that number 7,5,12,10 are the most important out of these 14 adversaries.Number 7 attitude determines everything.After you think about it for a minute you realize the people that get good jobs keep friends and almost have everything is because they have a good attitude they don’t try and act like they are better than anyone they stay humble and help.Number 5 Life is hard.It is I think if people don’t try in life it will be harder and harder and harder if you don’t change your ways and try and do better in life.Number 12 You will face rejection.If I knew this when I was growing up then I would have been working a lot harder than I was.10 Take every chance you get.It is true never turn down an opportunity to do better in your life.
I do not think I would add anything to the list because it hits all of the things I should have been told growing up but unfortunately I wasn’t.I hope I can see something added to the list but I could not think of anything else because I have been told this stuff this year and this year only.
i agree with hunter. very good choice of words
Deletei also agree with hunter, nice job
DeleteThe advice from this article that Jem and Scout would have found very helpful would be about “how you treat people”. I chose that one out of all the other ones because i know everybody hears rumors about Boo Radley and i know everyone believes it but have you ever stopped and think to how those things people say about him may hurt him. That’s why i chose that one because everyone should respect each other and like everyone for who they are and not on the outside or how there life it. The advice i find most helpful in the article is the “change will come” i find this one very helpful because i always did so bad in school i never tried and i always just worried about other people and not myself. But then i started to realize i was just hurting myself and needed to push more and try harder. That’s what i did. The start of high school i can say i did not try at all. All i wanted to do was leave school and hang out with my friends and i was so lazy to do any work or make up work to bring my grade up. But then one day my teacher told me to stay after and bring up my grades. At first i was mad because i did not want to stay after all i wanted to do was go home. But after i stayed after i didn’t think it was that bad. I started to pay attention more and stay after for extra help and to bring up my grades and soon after that i was passing all my classes with 80% and higher. The change of it too is doing all my work and having my grades good and still getting to hang out with all my friends after words. Would i add anything to the list? Yes, the think that i would add to the list is “ No matter how hard things get you will always find a way to stand up, things will turn out better in the end.” The reason i would add that is because a lot of people have hard times going on at home or at friends or at school and they always want to hurt themselves. But i feel that no matter how hard things get people should be the bigger person and fight through. Life will become so much eaiser if you just try. What do you think?
ReplyDeleteFrom this article I think that Jem and Scout would’ve found that attitude determines everything most useful. This tip would mainly be useful for Scout. For a little girl she isn’t very nice and in my opinion that’s why she doesn’t have many friends. The way she treats people and how she acts towards them is everything people are going to judge you on when they first meet you. In “To Kill a Mockingbird” on Scout’s first day of school she gets into a fight. I know that that probably was not the best first impression especially for little kids because now they are probably scared of her or thinks shes mean.
ReplyDeleteThe advice I find most helpful is “change will come” often at times I can feel like things are changing and if I don’t want them to I do everything in my power for them to stay the way they are. But i’ve come to realize that holding onto things that are hanging by a thread is stressful and that at times it’s the better choice to let them or it go. If something is meant to stay in your life it will and if not it won’t. It’s better to let things happen naturally.
If i had to add something to list it would be that everybody has a different opinion. Not everybody that you come encounter in your life is going to think the same things, believe the same things or like the same things and that’s completely okay. Often when i was younger i would get into stupid fights with friends because we would disagree but I know now that it's alright and it will happen a lot of the time. You just have to be mature and talk through it or respect others right to have a different opinion than yours. I wish i knew these but most people have to learn the hard way.
The advice from this article that I think Scout and Jem would have found most helpful is that life is hard. Scout and jem have a hard upcoming because there mom passed away and they are just raised by their father. I think another great advice is how you treat people matters. This goes along with treating everyone equally. They grew up in a time period where it was okay to be racist and everyone was racist and hated blacks and treated them poorly. Their father Atticus was known as a “nigger lover” when in reality he just treated everyone with equality. One last words of advice is, you will not have everything figured out anytime soon. I think this advice is directed towards Boo Radley. He doesn't have anything figured out because the whole town hates him but with time he will figure it out. The advise that i find most helpful is love more and keep your heart open. I like that advise because there is to much hate in the world and if people loved more and hated less the world would be a better place. I also like “you will face rejection”. I strongly believe that unable to succeed you have to fail. You have to face rejection to learn how to change to get better. I would definitely add to the list. I would add “if you want to succeed bad enough, you can accomplish anything in life.” I am a strong believer of this because i think you can accomplish anything if you put your mind to it.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Michael I think the advice for scout and Jem that would be most helpful would be life is hard. I think it's really hard for them. They grow up already bad because one of their parents died. I think that's a good addition to the list. Keep up the good work mike!
DeleteI think the advice that scout and jem will find the most helpful is that Life is hard. You have to put yourself in their shoes. Their mother died at a very young age. They are living in a time of racism. Their father that is defending a black man is being shunned from the town and everyone is wondering why he is doing that, they are being made fun of at school because of her dad. In the article is says that life will throw everything at you, and it will try and break you. In the book all these things that happened to scout and jem are all being thrown at them at a young age. I think this is helpful because they shouldn't quit at this age and they should keep their heads up. The advice that I found was most helpful was you’re only young once. This is the most basic advice but one of the best advice you could give to a young person. It pretty much means that you should try new things and do something before it's too late for you to do it. You need to explore the world and see what it is. Enjoy not paying and bills or taxes because sooner or later you’ll be livin on your own. I think this is most helpful to me because I can relate to it more than the other ones. I have tried a lot of things so far in my life and there will be many more to come. I would probably add that you need to keep trying to succeed a goal in life. I would add this because if you give up easily and not take any risks, I don't think that's a very fun life and you have to enjoy life while you still have it. Other than that I wouldn't add anything else because I think that this lists makes very good points. My favorite ones were Life is hard, and your only young once. I liked these two because as a teenager these relate to me the most. My life isnt to hard because I can't complain with what I have and the friends and family I have. You are only young once so you should use it to the most.
ReplyDeleteI agree with johns comment because I think as well that the advise that jem and scout will find most helpful is that life is hard. I agree with John that jem and scout do not have it easy especially at a young age and they should keep there heads up. I agree with John that the advice your only young once means try new stuff and do new things before its to late. I agree that you should enjoy while your young because one day you'll be paying bills and living on your own. I like johns advise that he would add because I think you need to keep trying to become successful because once you fail you can look at it in two ways. one way is that your not good enough and then you quit. The opposite way to think about it is as a learning experience and use it as motivation to get better. Overall the comment was good.
DeleteThe article that I think Jem and Scout would find helpful would be how you treat people matters article. I think so because in the car, Bob Ewell came up and was staring at them. Also, he banged on the window trying to scare the kids. Another thing is that he called Atticus a nigger lover. He doesn’t like black people and he was trying to accuse Tom Robinson of something. Atticus was trying to defend them while The Ewells were trying to put them in jail because of the skin color they had. The advice that I would find most helpful is the how you treat people matters, which is the same one that they did. I would also find this one helpful because you shouldn’t treat your own species like garbage, as well as any other species. I would add that bad name calling matters.
ReplyDeleteThe evidence from the article, the one that i think Jem and Scout will find the most helpful is “life is hard”. I think this one because no one tells them the consequences in life and they should know them. Life is a good thing but in order to have a good life you have to make it good. For example doing good in school and not getting into fights. When your a teenager you wanna start figuring out what u want to do in the future and in order to get a good job you have to do good in school because they look back at that.The tip I find most helpful is “Take every chance you get.”I feel like all of these pieces of advice are very important to everyone who is under the age of 16.I feel that number 7,5,12,10 are the most important out of these 14 adversaries.Number 7 attitude determines everything.After you think about it for a minute you realize the people that get good jobs keep friends and almost have everything is because they have a good attitude they don’t try and act like they are better than anyone they stay humble and help.The change of it too is doing all my work and having my grades good and still getting to hang out with all my friends after words. Would i add anything to the list? Yes, the think that i would add to the list is “ No matter how hard things get you will always find a way to stand up, things will turn out better in the end.” The reason i would add that is because a lot of people have hard times going on at home or at friends or at school and they always want to hurt themselves But i feel that no matter how hard things get people should be the bigger person and fight through. Life will become so much eaiser if you just try. What do you think?
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