14 Things
Nobody Told You While Growing Up
No one
ever tells you the hard truths of life. Maybe it’s because they can’t stomach
it, or maybe it’s because they think it’s just something you have to experience
firsthand to understand. Here are fourteen things nobody told you while growing
up that would’ve been nice to know beforehand
1. You’re Going to
Spend A Lot of Time Figuring Stuff Out
Unless you’re one of the lucky few who already
knows what their passion is and what you really enjoy, you will be spending a
lot of time trying new things and figuring out what you’re good at and what you
like. Don’t be afraid to try new things and fail at them; failing builds
character. You have a lot of growing up to do in your 20s, a lot of
self-examination and exploration. Use this time wisely to get to know yourself
as best as you can–not that you won’t change as you continue to get older, but
it’s definitely a time of discovery, getting to know oneself and what you want
in this world and what you have to contribute to the world.
2. Don’t Expect Smooth Seas
There will be many challenges, obstacles and curve balls swung
your way. Just try to take life as it comes. Don’t fight against the current
because you’ll just wear yourself out. If there’s a door that is standing wide
open for you and another that you’re trying to get through by knocking it down,
sometimes it’s best to take the door that’s already open for you. In other
words don’t try to be someone/something you’re not.
3. Change Will Come
Life is about change; don’t fight it and just go with it. Learn
from your mistakes and grow. Let go of things you can’t change. Sometimes
change will be so painful you will want to rip your heart out, but you’ll be
okay if you just hang on and know that no matter what happens, you will be
alright. Win, lose or draw, life will go on and you’ll get another chance to
start your life over if things haven’t gone according to plan.
4. Time Is a Limited Resource
Nothing lasts forever. Enjoy every moment that you have. Enjoy
life and practice being present in the moment because it goes by extremely
fast. There will be both good and bad times. The bad thing about up is there’s
always a down. It’s important to really enjoy and savor the good moments in
life because you’ll need those memories to reflect back on when the bad times
come. The first 10 years after high school go by at a breakneck speed and
before you know it you’re 28 and wondering how the time has escaped you.
5. Life is Hard
When you’re a teenager, you’re just at the beginning of your
life’s lessons. Life is the toughest teacher you will ever have. “Life is a
cruel teacher. She gives the test first, then the lesson.” Life will throw
everything that it can at you; it will try to break you and choke you until you
can’t breathe, but you can’t let it.
6. You’re
Only Young Once
Enjoy being young while you are still young! Enjoy being young
as much as possible. Enjoy the metabolism and the fun times. Cross stuff off
your bucket list while you’re young because no one knows how much time you
truly have. Don’t wait until you’re old and can’t or may not be able to do the
things you really want to experience. Seriously, you may be broke while you’re
young, but that doesn’t matter. You’ve got time to make money and settle down.
Travel, explore and do what your heart desires now. You can still get married,
have children and a household and career starting in your 20s if you want, but
you should try to balance your life with equal amounts of responsibility and
fun. The last thing you want to do is look back on missed chances.
7. Attitude Determines Everything
Attitude is everything and that’s not something they teach you
in school. Having a good attitude can make all the difference in your life. It
makes life easier and happier when you have a positive outlook and are able to
keep your attitude light and flexible when dealing with other people and with
life’s challenges.
8. How You Treat People Matters
Treating people with respect and decency can get you a long way
in the world. Remember that “honey attracts more flies than vinegar.” Being
nice to people really does actually matter to people. You won’t get anywhere
tearing other people down or blaming others for anything. Take responsibility
for yourself, your actions and your feelings.
9. Relationships Don’t Come Easy
Choosing a life partner/spouse is hard. Relationships in general
are hard, not just romantic ones but friendships and family relations as well.
Stay in touch with people who you really care about and who really care about
you. Make an effort to stay an active person in their life if you really care.
You will not have as many close friends as you get older and you will probably
lose some friends as well. Remember that it is okay, not everyone who comes
into your life is meant to stay forever; let them go and cherish the people who
are still in your life.
10. Take Every Chance You Get
Life is about taking chances, grabbing opportunities and taking
risks. Don’t be afraid to try something new, move somewhere new, work somewhere
new, meet new people and learn something new.
11. Life Is Complex. Try Not to Worry
Don’t worry because everyone has ups and downs. It’s just how
life is. Life is extremely messy and complicated, but don’t despair because
things will work out in the end. Keep living and keep on doing what you enjoy.
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
12. You Will Face Rejection
You will be rejected at some point in your life. Rejection hurts
at the very core of your being, but try not to take it too personally.
Oftentimes, when you’re rejected it has nothing to do with you and everything
to do with the person rejecting you. Take it in stride, let it slide off your
back and move on. I know this is easier said than done, but it will go a long
way in making you feel better and happier.
13. You Will Not Have Everything Figured Out Anytime Soon
If you don’t have everything figured out by the time you’re 30, you’re not alone. If you’re
not where you want to be in your life or career, don’t sweat it, you still have
time. Some people never figure out what they really want to do with their
lives, but they get a lot of great experience, learn new things and can
transfer their skills to many types of jobs. If you know what you want to do in
life, start doing it immediately, practice it as much as possible and you will
get better at it.
14. Love More and Keep Your Heart Open
Love is all
that really matters in the end. Give of yourself more than anything. Try to be
patient, empathetic, understanding, caring and gentle with other people. Get to
know people better by asking questions and listening attentively. People
usually like to talk about themselves and questions are a great way to get
conversations going. Love people for who they are, just as they are, and
realize that everyone is a work in progress! Life is a continual work in
progress. We’re all just trying to find our way, and we’re all confused and
looking for contentment. Life is a journey, and happiness is not a destination
to arrive at, but a way of living.
Your
comment must be at least 370 words. Due by Tuesday 3/20 at 11:59pm. Your reply
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-What advice from this article do you think Scout and Jem
would’ve found the most helpful? Why?
- What advice do you find the most helpful? Why?
-Would you add anything to the list? What would you add?
The evidence from the article, the one that i think Jem and Scout will find the most helpful is “life is hard”. I think this one because no one tells them the consequences in life and they should know them. Life is a good thing but in order to have a good life you have to make it good. For example doing good in school and not getting into fights. When your a teenager you wanna start figuring out what u want to do in the future and in order to get a good job you have to do good in school because they look back at that.
ReplyDeleteThe one i find more helpful is “Don’t expect smooth seas”, i say this one because all kids think that being an adult is easy until you are actually one. Being an adult will be somewhat easy if you make it easy. Keep up on your bills and make sure your kids have a good education and is healthy. Am i right?
If i could add anything to the list then i would add, “ life is a rollercoaster” What i mean by that is that life may go up or down. It may be easy or difficult. What do you think. If you could add anything what would you add?
The one advise Jem and Scout might have found most helpful while growing up. The one thing is life is hard. By that I mean that you’re not going to get everything you ask for. People are not going to like you. And when the people are being mean to you, you should just ignore them. Because if you dont ignore them and you listen to them you’re going to get upset and then you are going to start and argument with them and it could go bad. And especially school is hard you’re gonna not want to go but you have to go if you want a good job.
ReplyDeleteThe tip I find most helpful is “Take every chance you get.” To me that is the most helpful because if you get like a 40 on a test and you’re teacher gives a chance to redo it take the chance and do it. If you take chances in life you should always take them. Another chance you should take is if you get an opportunity to go to a professional sports game and you think there going to lose take that chance and go because you never know what could happen. There could be an upset. And if you don't take that chance and you’re watching the game at home and they win you’re going to be mad because you got a chance to go and you turned it down.
If I could add one more thing that could be helpful it would be “You’re only young once.” By that I mean you can do way more things when you’re a kid them when you’re an adult. One thing you can do is gon more amusement park rides. For some of the rides there's a age limit and it might be like 14. If that's the case then only people 14 or younger can go on the ride. Another thing is if you go to a restaurant there might be a sign that says”Kids eat free on Mondays under the age of 10.” Those are some of the things that you can do when you’re a kid and that adults cant do.
I think Ryan did good, he explained his self and gave reasons
Deletei think that ryan explained it well and i would agree that everything that a kid can have and cant like ryan said as kids we get free stuff and other things like that
DeleteI thought that you worded this in a great way. It was well expressed, but I do have to correct you on one thing. Last I went to Perkins I saw that children under 14 could eat free. It could have been altered though. Either way good job.
DeleteI think that Jem and Scout would of found the "Life Is Hard" advice more helpful because like it says life will throw everything at you and try to break you but you juss have to stay confident in yo self . I would say that #3 would b the most helpful because its like saying even if you had difficult times in the past it doesnt matter because there is always a second chance .Change aint easy but you juss have to be patient and confident. I would add another one saying "don't waist your time giving people the love and comfort they don't deserve , not everyone got you the way you got them. "
ReplyDeleteI think that number twelve "you will face rejection" would help them out most since there going through everything with their dad taking the case for Tom Robinson. It explains basically how you will have a hard time in life, not everyone's fair. There will be people against you or the ones you love and you have to just deal with it.I find "How you treat people matters" helpful because it's true it does. It matters based on if your rude or mean in school your most likely getting in lots of trouble collages wont take that. If your on a job interview they won't accept that or they'd fire you very soon after you're hired. I'd add that you can't rely on people for everything. What I mean is in life your alone there's not always going to be mom or dad looking out for you much anymore and you should learn to be more independent.
ReplyDeleteWhich article do i think jem and scout would find most helpful. I think they would find article 11 the most helpful( Life is complex . Try not to worry). I think this one is the best for them because there's usually something wrong or there is something bothering one of them. And i feel like they always take it to far with some stuff that does go on. And i feel like jem is starting to relax but scout is still young and doesn't know better all the time. Like when the teacher was gonna give the one kid a quarter and scout tries to explain he wouldn't take it because every knew that they were too poor to pay a quarter back. And scout got in trouble so scout started to beat him up on the playground. The article i found that was most helpful would be 2( don't expect smooth seas). I find it the most helpful cause i do try to go against a lot of things nowaday. And as much as i hat jrotc i mean i do know that i try to fight things a lot of the times in that class when i know all i have to do is just meet him halfway and i'm sure things would work out. Or even with other classes or other students if something happens i try to fight and go against the current like it says in the article instead of trying to just stop and let it go i try to fight it, I can't take everything to heart and let it get to me, I should just go through the open door then then try to break one down. If I could i would add one about your future because nobody not even yourself can tell you where you gonna end up in the next 10 years i don't want to sound morbid but you can be in a coffin for your own funeral, or you can be the new richest person in the world, or you can be in jail and even maybe middle class citizen with a family who knows. Planning for the future helps but we can never tuley tell where one can be in a couple years. You can have a huge business making insane amounts of money and then one day it can all be gone and you can go bankrupt.
ReplyDeletegood job, he explained it well nice work james
DeleteAfter reading the article I’ve noticed that the person who wrote the article didn’t have parents that were well informing. At fifteen going on sixteen I can mention that my parents have told me at least nine of the fourteen things on this list. The reason why they told me, i’m not sure of but, if something does occur involving those situations then i’ll at least know why it happened. It’s also clear that both Scout, and Jem’s father didn’t fully touch base with those fourteen topics listed. I feel that if these were to apply towards Jem, and Scout there would be multiple points, not just one. However, If I chose the most helpful points then they’d be that “Relationships don’t come easy”, “Don’t expect smooth seas”, and “You’re going to spend a lot of time figuring stuff out”. Each one has the same basic concept that life wont be easy to master. There’ll be hard times within relationships of the family, or elsewhere. The journey may not be easy to travel upon but you’ll make it through, and that time that you’re experiencing that journey you will spend years trying to grasp it all.
ReplyDeleteNot including the recommended points for Scout, and Jem Finch I think the best one for me if I took their advice would be to take every chance that I get. Most of the time I see events that are offered to me, and I reject them. For example going to the movies with a friend, going somewhere boring like and auction with my family, or even attending after school activities. All these events may sound fun to some of us, but to me they are either boring or my sluggish self has taken over and has decided to not participate. Therefore I believe that this advice is the best within the article, and is surely something that I would partake in doing.
However, if I decided to add anything to this list then it would go on for ages. Some of the points are roughly the same basic concept, and I feel a more diverse list would help those who are undecided on what they may want to do in life, or what they think about life. The points they made were all good, but maybe adding something more diverse would help those who are indecisive.
I feel if Jem and Scout got this advice Love is all that really matters in the end. Give of yourself more than anything. Try to be patient, empathetic, understanding, caring and gentle with other people. Get to know people better by asking questions and listening attentively. People usually like to talk about themselves and questions are a great way to get conversations going. Love people for who they are, just as they are, and realize that everyone is a work in progress! Life is a continual work in progress. We’re all just trying to find our way, and we’re all confused and looking for contentment. Life is a journey, and happiness is not a destination to arrive at, but a way of living. They would have focus more on the things that actually mattered and not something irrelevant and stick together. Like it said Enjoy being young while you are still are Enjoy being young as much as possible. Enjoy the the fun times. Cross stuff off your bucket list while you’re young because no one knows how much time you truly have. Don’t wait until you’re old and can’t or may not be able to do the things you really want to experience. Seriously, you may be broke while you’re young, but that doesn’t matter. You’ve got time to make money and settle down. Travel, explore and do what your heart desires now. You can still get married,if you want, but you should try to balance your life with equal amounts of responsibility and fun. The last thing you want to do is look back on missed chances.
ReplyDeleteI think that the first piece of advice that they would have loved is that they are going to spend a lot of time figuring things out so don't stress about what comes at you. Also not to expect smooth seas throughout their whole lives because it will always become rough at one point or a couple points but its just to keep your head high because just like jem and scout they need to keep their heads up just because atticus is standing up for what's right not everyone will agree with what is happening so they will try to shame the kids but the kids just need to stay high and let everyone else talk what they want but at the end of the day he's doing what right for everyone and himself he doesn't want his children to grow up being racist or anything like that. Personally the one i find most helpful is the third one because that one explains how not to expect smooth seas for your whole life because it isn't easy you will meet people that are bad for your future and others that will help you grow successful at the same time they will be doing the same and take them all the way up because when i was smaller i had some tough times where not everything was going well for me but i ended up keeping my head up and not giving up and to keep trying also the tiniest of decisions can change your whole life like when i was in middle school i ended up not doing my homework and it made me get held back and R.I.P i stayed back and i haven't gone a day without not regretting everything that happened during that school year. I don't think that i would add anything just because im not to sure i've been through enough to give others advice on how to live their lives and in general not to be rude or anything to myself but i'm not the brightest to be telling advice because half of the time i can't even give myself advice when i need it or if i ever told myself something i cant go through with it without having others tell me again.
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ReplyDeleteI think Scout and Jem would have found most helpful from this article is take every chance you get,relationships don't come easy,how you treat people matter,attitude determine everything,and life is hard.They could take this advice and put it into their lives and maybe make it easier.Like with the relationships don't come easy,when they met their aunt they should take time respect her and get to know her more.They may not want to and it will be difficult but that is how you build a relationship.As well with the how you treat people matter.If you treat people disrespectful the other person will treat you the same way back.So you treat everybody with respect and kindness they will treat you that way too and you won't have problems.
The advice i find most helpful is attitude determines everything.I would choose that to be the most helpful because when I give attitude I don't get or get to do the things I want to do.When i show respect and don't talk back or give attitude and listen I get to do things i want to in no problem.If you go around giving everybody attitude no one will ever talk to you or wanna be your friend because of your attitude.
I think the first paragraph would have been more helpful for Scout and Jem, because there still just kids and they have plenty of time to learn right from wrong. And to learn from their mistakes in life.
ReplyDeleteWhat advice to I find the most helpful? That would be all of them to be honest. Because all those advices are very helpful and realistic, and at this time in life they were very yeah helpful like great timing to read all those encouraging life lessons. And they make you look at life totally different now. And try to be as positive as you can... because you only get “One” life. So you just have to live it to
Your fullest and enjoy it as much as you can. And to dismiss all the negativity from coming your way. Like for example when they said “Try to be patient” that helps because I’m so young and I’m out here trying to look for love. I just wanna be loved by significant other. But I’m so young I shouldn’t be looking for that I should just be relaxing and living my childhood to the fullest. Experimenting different things in life. Going on adventures with my friends or family. And just enjoying the time while I can. Because you can be gone before u know it. And so can your family and friends. So you just have to enjoy everyone’s time and their
Physically well being. Before it’s gone. Love will make its way and find you. If you were dealing with a person and they didn’t feel the same way for you. Than it’s just wasn’t the right person, all you can really do at that point is just move on and live a happy life and make the best out of it. Learn from your mistakes, and the people you choose to deal with. Anything you lost you wasn’t suppose to have, and and anybody you lost wasn’t supposed to be around. “SIMPLE”. Because the generation that we live in now females are scared to love. And guys are scared to show emotions. Everybody wanna be hard & heartless. And it’s all just stupid. You can’t make someone see the good in you , you can’t make someone love you no matter how much they mean to you. That’s why it’s important to know your worth, you’ll see yourself trying to save connections with people who just want to show the world why you’re not good enough. So I guess that’s something I can add in, that might be helpful to someone else down the road.
The advice from this article that I think Scout and Jem would’ve found the most helpful is “How You Treat People Matters” because they see that black people are treated different from the white people.
ReplyDeleteThe advice that I find the most helpful is “Life Is Hard” because tehre are going to be a lot of bad thing in life that are going to hard and that are not gonna be good.